• Echo Dot@feddit.uk
      5·
      5 小时前

      I got to “she has to go to bed” before I realised that this was all the same day.

      Trauma dumping can be cathartic but perhaps maybe don’t do it within the first two hours of having met someone. Also don’t do it too much because your problems aren’t there problems.

  • veni_vedi_veni@lemmy.world
    95·
    10 小时前

    Just get used to rejection, until you become enlightened enough to realize that life is suffering and you only have value insofar as how useful/reliable to others you are.

    Anyone telling you otherwise is stunting your growth.

        • Chakravanti@monero.townEnglish
          1·
          8 小时前

          Because no one is going to tolerate attention from someone who hasn’t any outside theselves. Just because someone’s ego is of a despicable opinion doesn’t mean they’re not narcissistic. It does mean they don’t yet know what the fuck to think about what they see.

          Want a short cheat sheet?

          Ego exists to create dying

          Murder any notion of that sense. You’ll never be worth attention from outside youself any time you spot that nonsense.

          Just ask the downstairs daddy that eats the dead.

          Psi is Psy is Sci is Sigh

  • Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world
    407·
    17 小时前

    Because men don’t have a strong enough social support system to have cathartic talks about their emotions. Because women aren’t willing to disproportionately shoulder emotional labor anymore.

    The patriarchy hurts everyone. Normalize discussing mental health among men. Don’t let stigma stop you from telling your friends from how much they mean to you and how you’re here if they need to talk.

  • ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    1411·
    1 天前

    Just having a chill conversation with someone online.

    They tell me that they’ve had their heart broken in the past and they’re very sensitive.

    mfw I had no idea this was a date is this person completely bonkers

      • ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        201·
        1 天前

        I would absolutely say something like that while freaking out - even though this is online and I’m not in any danger

  • spicy pancake@lemmy.zipEnglish
    193·
    1 天前

    > pretending to be a girl online so that i can get just a little attention from a human being for once
    > talking to this guy, seems really sweet and we have a bunch of common interests
    > mfw i actually start to really care about this guy
    > he alludes to abandonment issues in his past
    > ohno.jpg
    > panic, tell him i have to go to bed
    > try to go to bed but can’t sleep from guilt
    > can’t bring myself to message him the truth that i am a girlpretender attention whore
    > decide just blocking him is the least painful option for both of us
    am i a bad person?

    • Samsy@lemmy.ml
      265·
      1 天前

      I bet everyone has pretended to be the opposite sex online. Maybe just for the giggles. But anyone who does that all the time, straight to hell.

      • TheSlad@sh.itjust.works
        13·
        23 小时前

        I never have on purpose, but in games i like to play as female characters. This was very useful in runescape back in the mid-2000s. Desperate guys would just asume you were a girl IRL and give you free shit asking to be your boyfriend.

        • PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk
          1·
          6 小时前

          I got a load of grief for playing Fortnite as Penny, mainly from a family friend who kept banging on about “oh look, that’s his type there!” or “like a buxom blonde, do you?”

          I’m like motherfucker she’s British and she’s an engineer so I’m choosing to play as her because that’s awesome as fuck, not because what’s between the legs you fucking buffoon

          If she’d started popping off about just playing Fortnite I’d have been “yeah fair enough mate, maybe I am a shithead” but the whole implied “you’re a guy so you must fancy her if you’re using a girl model” just really got on my tits… to use a poorly timed expression.

          • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
            1·
            5 小时前

            I only ever played beta Fortnite, so I don’t really know who we’re talking about, but I thought all of the characters were generic, I didn’t know there were classes.

        • Malfeasant@lemmy.world
          6·
          17 小时前

          I play guitar hero as Casey Lynch. I figure why play as who you look like when you can play as who you want to look at?

          If I were going for accuracy to body type, I’d have to pick Lars Umlaut…

        • bitjunkie@lemmy.world
          41·
          16 小时前

          All my WoW alts were female because my then-girlfriend thought dudes were giving her all kinds of stuff because she was such a good healer. To prove a point I made a level 1 female character and undressed on the Orgrimmar mailbox, and made more gold than her main had in like 10 minutes. Sleeping on the couch was so worth it.

      • Farid@startrek.website
        141·
        1 天前

        That’s kind of a weird assumption. What qualifies as pretending? I don’t think I have ever done that.

        • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
          201·
          1 天前

          I’m a woman on Lemmy with a gender-neutral username, which means I don’t have to try to “pretend” anything - people assume I’m a guy by default. Hell, it also happened back when I was on Reddit and used a female-coded username, which is even more confusing.

          I can only imagine the gender performances these guys are putting on if they’re able to easily convince others that they’re women. Some people apparently take “there are no women on the internet” literally and can’t seem to process when women appear online (in a non-porn context, at least. Which is really disheartening.) I’ve had people full-on argue with me that I couldn’t really be female, because I once posted a picture that included my hand and apparently it “wasn’t feminine enough.” (That’s what I get for keeping my nails short and disliking nail polish, I guess. Who knew even women’s hands are expecting to conform to rigid gender expectations?)

          • Malfeasant@lemmy.world
            8·
            17 小时前

            imagine the gender performances these guys are putting on

            Hello, fellow woman. Would you like to go to the bathroom together and have periods?

          • stingpie@lemmy.world
            10·
            24 小时前

            There can’t be women online, that’s impossible! Websites aren’t pointlessly gendered!

          • ☂️-@lemmy.ml
            3·
            20 小时前

            back on reddit almost everyone was a white young middle class male westerner, so that was my default assumption. and i rarely read usernames there.

            lemmy breaks this for me because it sounds like people want to be themselves much more. feels way more free and diverse, and its nice.

            • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
              1·
              5 小时前

              Based on my All feed everyone on Lemmy is either American or, for some reason, German.

          • Mr. Satan@lemmy.zip
            5·
            24 小时前

            Being a woman is gay, so you must be fake.

            Conclusion, women on the internet are fake and gay.

        • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz
          4·
          1 天前

          Say you’re a girl when you aren’t a girl in order to fool the other person into thinking that you’re a girl

          • Farid@startrek.website
            3·
            18 小时前

            So if men playing as female avatars in games don’t count (that openly admit to it), then I would say it’s probably a very small group of men who actually do that.

      • spicy pancake@lemmy.zipEnglish
        38·
        1 天前

        or straight to therapy and hopefully a trans supportive community haha (not that it would excuse catfishing)

        • Diurnambule@jlai.lu
          14·
          1 天前

          I try to not reveal my gender when speaking online. I don’t fell it pertinent and it is nice to be able to act which ever role you chose to at the moment.

          • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
            52·
            23 小时前

            Bingo, bango! Whenever gender comes up, I flip a coin for what I’ll answer. With rare exception, gender is meaningless in most places and is only being used by the other side as a red herring at best.

        • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
          2·
          23 小时前

          I had an acquaintance who used a voice changer on dnd online, and was both given crazy loot and allowed to act like an absolute ass without consequence. It’s amazing how thirsty some folks can be.

        • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz
          2·
          1 天前

          For me it was Habbo Hotel. I’m hearing this sort of shit is rampant on Roblox. It’s nice to know kids are keeping some traditions alive.

  • Sanctus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    22·
    1 天前

    NGL I do not miss keeping up with that shit. Its such a drag. Yet somehow waking up and saying good morning to someone is the shit.