• Echo Dot@feddit.uk
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      17
      ·
      15 hours ago

      I got to “she has to go to bed” before I realised that this was all the same day.

      Trauma dumping can be cathartic but perhaps maybe don’t do it within the first two hours of having met someone. Also don’t do it too much because your problems aren’t there problems.

      • SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        edit-2
        3 hours ago

        It’s definitely a third date or beyond activity. When I was single, I always asked third dates to compare their emotional baggage with me, but wouldn’t discuss it in depth until later. We all have it, so might as well bring it out but not all of it at once. Better to savor the pain.