My partner’s sister is 19, I’m in my early 30s now. But I met my partner when she was 19, I often ask myself did she come across as this annoying to people in their 30s back then?
40 year old here, dating a 19 year old, consensual D/s relationship: she is not for talking. You place a collar on her and then tell her what you want to hear. They need training before they’re good at anything.
Hi! Sorry to inconvenience you, but I have just one question. The fuck did I just read?
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Exactly! Why the fuck would anyone want to date someone that much younger than them? I will never understand why so many men want to date girl so young.
People are feeling all kinds of pressure these days. If they want to have kids they need a lot of resources. But having a lot of resources is really difficult to do when you’re young. So that naturally suggests a compromise: one old with resources and one young with health.
What I mean I’ve been alive a long time. I’m not sure how I was supposed to accrue resources through that though.
Also who wants to date a 19 year old they’d be really annoying.
Wait, but I thought men hated “gold diggers”? And also, that’s the result of our fucked up late stage capitalism economic system and not how things should work. A young couple should be able to afford to live comfortably and have children if they want.
People make life choices based on how things are, not how they ought to be.
Generally a “gold digger” refers to a young woman who marries an elderly rich man with the intent of gaining a large inheritance, not a young woman who marries an established (but still working) man a few decades her senior with the intent of raising a family. A big “gold digger tell” is that the rich guy already has adult children who end up in a feud with his new young wife (because she represents a threat to their inheritance).
A friend of friend I’ve met a couple times is into me. They’re 23 and I’m 30 and I still don’t have an interest. They’re perfectly nice, but…
I think after 28-30 it starts to really not matter that much but before that even smallish gaps can be pretty questionable. And any dude that would consider someone their age to be a “hag” probably largely dates younger because mature, experienced women can tell they’re really just garbage man-children.
really just garbage man-children
It’s a green-text, we knew that from the get-go
Yes, but even people who don’t go online much, even people I actually do care about in my own life, still fall into that category. The people I care about tend to be much nicer and wouldn’t call someone a hag but they do lack a certain level of maturity. Green-text makes it near certain but it’s a “not all rectangles are squares” situation.
Oh 100%. I knew a guy that was my age, that was always trying to date younger, because no women our age would deal with his bullshit. So… I guess I do understand, huh.
For real. When I was 24, I dated a 19 year old for like two weeks. They were really nice and interesting, but ultimately the age gap proved to make a relationship unviable. I can’t even imagine a nine year gap at that age. Gross.
I mean, i’d like to date someone that much older than me.
Why? (Genuine question if you feel like sharing) Like, I too prefer older partners, but not that much older.
Honestly, because i’m a 20 something year old man with no life experiences and I don’t know how to survive on my own. Someone older with more experience who would be willing to teach me would be nice. It’s a big ask I guess. I don’t really know what else to do. I’m lonely and i’d like to meet someone kind, caring, and beautiful who can be a friend, lover, and teacher if you will. I haven’t told anyone this because it makes me sound desperate and like a lost cause.
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Source: Brainrot Girlfriend
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It feels wrong to read manga-style art left to right.
Love that we’re making imaginary [gen-z/gen alpha/gen whatever the hell arbitrary title] the same way our parents and grandparents made imaginary millennials to get mad at.
The Silent Generation called their kids “Generation Me”
The Silent Generation was correct.
It was “The ‘Me’ Generation” not “Generation Me”. Generation ____ starts with Copeland’s Generation X book.
As an adult for most dating your peers is preferable to dating younger adults. I don’t want to hear “So what was the gas crisis like?” on a date ever again (IDK what it was like I was 3).
> be me 34 > decide to look for a hag around my age > most of them have at least one kid, usually the annoying kind, and only see you as a babysitter > same ones are also super focused on their kids, no hobbies, no interests, no life > most of them seem to be super conservative > some of them are so bigoted they can only talk about "those people" > finally found someone who's bearable for more than 20 minutes > never mind, she's alcoholic > finally found someone not alcoholic and is bearable for even more time > never mind, she's both 300+km away and also married How do I find hot singles on the fediverse? I'm not reinstalling Tinder!I tried that with Reddit. Parents cockblocked me. Had nothing but my missed life to think about in the meantime, so my mental health slips, and I ask who besides Serial killers and rapists deserves to die (looking for a description of myself in the answers).
Implying someone’s life is worth more than others is a big no no on Reddit.
Get permabanned for inciting violence.
Nothing but your missed life? You can live a lot of life without a romantic partner, as much I very much understand it can still feel lonely at times.
I missed my entire life. It’s not all about that. Though I also regret not experiencing what everyone else did. The mistakes, the heartbreaks, you know, normal people stuff, that’s mostly FOMO. What really sucks is I actually missed out on almost everything that makes life worth living. So, now I’m just in the mindset that I should just treat the good things of this world as false, and something that is meant for rich/normal people.
I’m just here to work, and fight. I need to make sure no one else ends up the same, ever again. Until then, there’s no point in resting.
So I went back to seeing myself as unimportant, and putting my mission first.
OP is still on 4chan. Lingo aside I’d say he’s in his maturity range.
4channers should probably just stay out of the dating pool entirely.
Also 19 and 28 are both still Gen Z.
Is 30 the oldest genz or the youngest millennial?
The lines are fuzzy, and that’s why we have the term “Zilennial”. So let’s just toss them into that category and call it a day.
Edit: Wikipedia says the cutoff for Millennials is 1996, which would make OP an older Gen Z. But I still think “Zilennial” is still most fitting.
And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.
They have nothing in common. There’s no way. It’s pure physical attraction above all else.
Edit: Seemingly a lot of older people down voting this are in denial about how much they have in common with some 18 year old girl/guy as a romantic partner. You understand you’re not fooling anyone, right? Not even other people like you. Underneath, you all know what you’re about.
Or both sides like to learn from each other and grow towards each other over time?
There are worse reasons why an extreme age gap is seen as creepy, “not knowing each others interests” is not one of them.
I’m 54 and most of the people I know are in their early 20s. We get along great and have plenty to talk about.
Yeah, I’m in my mid 30’s and my best friend is nearing 50. His oldest child is the same age as my younger brother. Believe it or not, people can have common interests that aren’t entirely reliant on their age.
Though I will say that age becomes less relevant as you get older… A 29 year old dating a 19 year old is pretty universally creepy, but few people would say the same about a 49 year old dating a 39 year old. Same age gap, but it’s assumed that the 39 year old has enough life experience to actually make their own decisions. Even in my mid-20’s, I was looking at 19 year olds as if they were literal children. There’s a lot of maturing that happens in the late teens and early 20’s.
You mean in the late 20’s and early 30’s. Not a lot of maturing until 25.
Edit: this assumes middle-european living and cultural conditions.
That depends on a lot of factors, e.g. whether they go to college or start working or doing trades directly after highschool.
Half your age + 7 is a reasonable formula for determining creep factor.
No, a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is still creepy.
The age it lands on is always the grey area age. If youre 19 dating someone 16.5 thats weird but 17.5 most wouldn’t bat an eye at.
I mean, maybe 17.5 and 18+, idk about 19. What’s the brain difference between some six months of people? You could have been in a perfectly fine relationship before also.
Sure, but there’s a difference between hanging out with some 20 year olds, and being romantically involved with them.
The latter requires a hell of a lot of maturity and being in a similar place in life to deal with things life throws at you. The former just requires laughing at some meme together you both find funny.
Agreed! But we had solid conversations, deep and involved. I was astonished at how mature and educated they were, forgot what I was like at that age.
I’ve found papers I wrote for school in my teens, thought, “Oh boy, this is gonna be some bullshit.” Read them and was surprised at my understanding of the world!
Guess my point is, I will never undersell the youth, not ever again. Dating someone half my age, meh, can’t really see it, but I do see it as possible for some.
That’s fair, and I would never say that youth are idiots or shouldn’t be listened to. That’s not true at all, I think they can have many valuable things to contribute to society, the conversation, the world, etc.
I’m strictly speaking about them as a romantic partner with such an age gap, especially one that starts when they’re 17/18 and the person they’re dating is in their 30’s or more. Nobody can convince me that that would be an equal relationship for both parties. I’ve attempted it in my late 20’s dating a few 18/19 year olds, and then again attempted it in my mid 30’s and it was a significantly worse experience.
They weren’t bad people in any way, or stupid, or immature in the pop-culture sense of the word. But the relationship was never going to work out, and it was because no matter which way you slice it, a mid 30’s man and a 19 or 20 year old girl are not at the same place in life. If they are, then it’s the older person who never grew up and is still behaving like a teenager.
All agreed! At 52 I considered a relationship with a 26-yo friend. If she didn’t have 3 tiny children, maybe? But no, just couldn’t see it working. I’d be 80 and her at 54? I’d be robbing her of her youth when she could have had a younger man to share that life with.
Funny enough, my Filipino wife is 6-months older than I, and she was fucking horrified to learn that. Her friends are all married to white dudes 20+ years older. Cultural thing. :)
Lol I got downvoted for saying the same shit. Glad I’m not the only one who can see this.
You don’t date though. A lot of people I know are young. Who else tf you going to meet nowadays.
Though I’d date 25+, screw 22+, not younger.
Meh, I won’t put strict age limits on sex. Relationships? I can guess what would and wouldn’t work for me, but the world is a big place and people are wildly variable.
Idk man. Isn’t screwing someone fresh out of high school a bit creepy? I mean come on, they were considered a kid maybe months ago. It’s suspicious if you do that.
Acquaintances/Friends and “dating” are not the same.
Only saying, we had far more in common than I had thought. I was replying to someone who said winter/spring relationships are only about physical attraction.
What if you like having sex with your friends?
Nothing wrong with that, but they’re friends. I get a long with coworkers, clients, etc, but inside a romantic relationship is completely different.
Then that is really fucking hot.
I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.
Maybe she was rich and could stay high and watch musicals for the rest of her life. What a lucky girl she was.
That’s the mindset of plenty of people at 25 or 30 even. I think personal development/priorities are to blame more so than the age gap
I consider 25 to be scrapping the bottom of the barrel for dating. I’m 29
I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)
I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn’t interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.
This is the best relationship I’ve ever had but I won’t deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it’s like to have a boyfriend in the city.
Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.
I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30’s, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.
In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he’ll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder
Men who like to date older definitely exist!
I date/have sex with who I’m physically attracted to. Otherwise I’m OK if we just stay (non-sexual) friends. Us having stuff in common doesn’t make me horny for them or want to romance them.
If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.
That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I’ve been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I’d like deeper relationships (I’m poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
Literally all you can ever do.
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Had three relationships that ran 2-5 years each before I got married, with a smattering of dating and perennial party girl friends in between.
But it’s so weird to want to hook up, then never see that person again.
As long as we agree with each other on politics.
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I mean, maybe if you’re a stupid person.
The brainrot is real, even with “old hags”. My ex was 3 years younger than me, but she was an avid tiktok scroller. I was often being shown and taught about new “memes” that everyone promptly forgot about by the next week.
people both younger and older than me talk like this and I just want to go anywhere else every time I hear it
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I once made the mistake of dating someone 12 years younger than me (she was 25). Man, what a mistake, nevermind the cultural differences, her emotional maturity was…intolerable, and this from a person I’d considered a friend for a year already. It was the first and last time iv ever done that.
Can’t fathom calling a 28 year old a hag 💀
It’s a similar joke to calling 30-yos boomers
You haven’t seen the 28 year olds Anon dates
They’re 48 in crackhead years.
Meth does some wild shit to a person’s looks but heroin addicts can look just as fucking gnarly
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Late-stage brainrot
My man just wants to fuck children.
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OP doesn’t understand what cultural progression is. Of course different people gonna do stuff differently as time progresses, the class she was when you where in high school is just irrelevant.
This is the case where op just has skill issue, and is stuck in the past like a boomer he is.
Would you say that for someone underage? Age is age, gap is gap.
When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be “hip” or “trendy” to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations “Boomers” just makes you sound like you didn’t pay attention in history class.
Language transforms. Where before boomer would be a word for the generation born during the babyboom, nowadays it’s used for old people who are unable to keep up with the times.
I mean I guess, but we have generations named for a reason. Calling everyone that’s old a boomer just makes you sound like you don’t know what you’re talking about IMO. To each their own I suppose.
Born in the 1900s? What’d you do before they invented fire? Ride dinos?
Ironic…
