• Miles O'Brien@startrek.website
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    9 hours ago

    I am sorry if this comes off as offensive to anyone, I’m not trying to be.

    I don’t get furries.

    I also don’t have to completely understand their ins and outs and complexities to know they’re people who are worthy of respect for being other living people. (or non-people if they identify as non-people? Again I don’t understand them as much as I probably should).

    Regardless, shout out to all the furries out there who struggle with things I can’t even imagine.

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      2 hours ago

      Simply put: It’s a fetish.

      It’s pretty common to not understand why some people like the things they do in fetishes. Most people don’t find feet attractive, but some people become just as aroused seeing feet as others do seeing breasts.

      (Some furries will insist up and down that it’s not a fetish, and those people are lying. They’ll claim it’s about a ton of different things, but it’s pretty easy to tell. Because the ones who deny it are the ones who like to push their fetish onto others.)

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        So your definition of furry is exclusively someone who wears fur suits in public? Because that’s not most people’s definition of that term. But either way, is it just beyond you that someone could like doing something others see as weird for any reason other than sexual gratification?

        Also, why do you use breasts are your “sexual but not fetishized” example here lmao are you under the impression that the western sexual fixation on breasts is not fetishistic

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      2 hours ago

      I don’t get them either.

      What I do know, however, is that most of the ones I’ve met seen like great people. The community seems extremely friendly and welcoming. They also seem to be intelligent and willing to step up to help.

      Ultimately, if it makes them happy, and doesn’t hurt anyone, have fun! I’m sure others look at me similarly, for my weird hobbies.

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      6 hours ago

      Same. Y’all do you, but I’ve blocked every mention of “yiffy” around here. Not my jam.

      Funny story! Went to a Halloween charity ball where you either dressed formal or wore a costume. Went in the men’s room and this dude is grunting like he’s seriously jacking himself. It was alarming, like, bro, you OK?

      Giant fat man stumbles out of the stall. He’d been wrestling with his spandex to take a piss.

      Friends and neighbors, that’s dedication!

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        6 hours ago

        Never choose a costume where you have crap on your face or head. A great concept is ruined by irritation at 9:30pm.

        Them that commits to the bit gets the respect

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      6 hours ago

      Look, you want the guy I know to fix your computer? Maybe deal with the wolf costume?

    • candyman337@lemmy.world
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      10 hours ago

      The furry community is one of the most accepting and open minded communities because they understand what it’s like to be treated as outcasts and to be chastised for liking something that’s completely harmless just because it’s out of the norm. Most of the time it’s not even a sexual thing for them, it’s just something they like or something that makes them feel more comfortable out in public. It’s a way to make their exterior to be exactly what they want it to be. So in that way I think they’re pretty cool as a whole.

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      10 hours ago

      I’m perfectly comfortable with taking it as far as “so long as it’s all consenting adults, it’s none of my fucking business, and I wish them all well.”

      If it’s not my thing, no big deal. Some people like feet, and it’s not my thing, so no big deal.

      Even if I find it personally gross, again, consenting adults, no big deal. Some people are into watersports, but hey, so long as they’re not leaving a mess or hurting each other, no big deal.

      We’ve got enough trouble in the world without also trying to police what adults are doing in their goddamn personal lives. I yearn for a day in which more people could accept the “it’s none of my fucking business” ethos.

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        10 hours ago

        “I do not like a certain subset of humanity because they are different than me and I feel safe punching down at them”

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          “I don’t think this particular hobby is cool” is not “I do not like a certain subset of humanity” and you are a clown for attempting such. If you’ve ever wondered why someone dislikes you, it is probably because of this behavior.

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          10 hours ago

          Woah, you put a lot of words in my mouth. I don’t mind them at all. I just wouldn’t say they’re cool. Thinking about it now, it’s weird to think anyone is cool because of their sexual preference.

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            10 hours ago

            Why is there this weird prudish subset of the internet that seeks to over-sexualize benign activities that make them uncomfortable.

            Furries are, at most, a place where a minority find it easier to express sexuality (such as homo-, bi-, pan-sexuality amongst others). This isn’t because it’s inherently sexual, but because they feel comfort and lack of judgment from their peers.

            It’s a shame that you find that kind of acceptance to be uncomfortable

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              It’s a shame that you find that kind of acceptance to be uncomfortable

              What the fuck are you talking about? I never said anything is the sort.

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                6 hours ago

                Nah you were just ostensibly judgy about a specific subset of cosplay enthusiasts. They put a lot of effort into the show. It’s a huge trigger.

                If, for instance, you were a large-hat enthusiast, you might be put out if someone decided you fucked kids because of your sombrero.

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            8 hours ago

            Dude, are werewolves the same as wolf-wolves to you? Because they are really not the same at all. It’s like saying a lemur is the same as a human. It is cognitively and anatomically very different.

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            10 hours ago

            It is when you generalize an entire subculture based on an episode of CSI from 1999

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      6 hours ago

      Have you met one? Truly curious.

      Also turned on by system administrators doing sequential straight leg lifts while walking, can’t help it

      • I’ve seen a few in my time. Hell, in another post I mentioned that I used to like 2 the Gryphon’s content. He was like a furry Maddox. Hadn’t thought about him in years, looked up if he was still around and discovered he was arrested for possession of child porn and joined a neo-nazi group. :/

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        5 hours ago

        On some discord servers over the years I have. Especially related to any games with historical warfare involved like WW2.

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      6 hours ago

      I’ve blocked every furry community that hits my screen - not my cup of tea - but I also see quality posts from you all the time in the corners of Lemmy that I do frequent. You 100% belong here, to Lemmy at large and not just the furry subsets of it. 👊