cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/30147790
does anybody else go casually chat, go on a few dates, learn everything about each other go, show each other our favorite shows, binge then together, have tons of unprotected sex, learn new kinks, act like a married couple for a few months, then slowly fall out of love, start having poor communication and broken routines, paranoia and self insecurity sabotaging every opportunity to fix it, then just stop talking and become strangers, no, just me? okay. I’m fine.
This is probably due to my personality but why would people go into a relationship just to end up abusing each other!?
But how will ibknow it’s love if we dont hurt each other and leave each other terrible ruined husks? What will i have ro remember her by after it’s over if not the emotional scars?
If you want something to remember her by and to also get her to remember you, the passwords
How many passwords can you fist?
As many as the keyboard can handle 😏
For a serious answer, bad mental wellbeing
Many people don’t know how relationships are supposed to work, they only have had bad experiences and lack perspective, they had bad parents which thus weren’t good role models, or they have mental health issues such as low self-esteem, or anxiety, or maybe even paranoia, and so on
There’s a whole host of reasons, but none of those reasons are rational. They’re broken results from struggling people. It’s important to try to be self-aware and figure out one’s issues to avoid things end up like this
I see. Interesting, that seems to be the opposite of me – I’ve had so few relationships because I never feel quite ready mentaly and so I’m very cautions.
right? i want a relationship because i have a deep twisted need to give a cute person breakfast in bed and see them smile