cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/30147790
does anybody else go casually chat, go on a few dates, learn everything about each other go, show each other our favorite shows, binge then together, have tons of unprotected sex, learn new kinks, act like a married couple for a few months, then slowly fall out of love, start having poor communication and broken routines, paranoia and self insecurity sabotaging every opportunity to fix it, then just stop talking and become strangers, no, just me? okay. I’m fine.
For a serious answer, bad mental wellbeing
Many people don’t know how relationships are supposed to work, they only have had bad experiences and lack perspective, they had bad parents which thus weren’t good role models, or they have mental health issues such as low self-esteem, or anxiety, or maybe even paranoia, and so on
There’s a whole host of reasons, but none of those reasons are rational. They’re broken results from struggling people. It’s important to try to be self-aware and figure out one’s issues to avoid things end up like this
I see. Interesting, that seems to be the opposite of me – I’ve had so few relationships because I never feel quite ready mentaly and so I’m very cautions.