He wakes me at 5am every day because he slams stuff really loud. He doesn’t even have work early he just wake up at 5am and stays home all day.

Should I do revenge on him and slamm stuff at 12 am when I go to sleep

  • HappyTimeHarry@lemm.ee
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    Invest in a $2 pair of ear plugs, apartments tend to be like that. Most likely the person is not doing it intentionally, or if they are then the best revenge you can get is to tell them how well you selpt in spite of their futile efforts to annoy you.

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      22 hours ago

      that’s a cool solution you just made up and posted on the internet for fun because you’re pretending to be a person

      try sleeping in ear plugs and see how your ear holes feel

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        16 hours ago

        I dont use plugs any more but i used to, i found a sleep mask that has headphone speakers built in playing an audiobook or white noise is ideal for me.

        They make different kinds, some might be more comfortable than others. I am indeed a real person, who has experience sleeping in very loud environments.

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          well i wear ear plugs a lot for work and I can’t do it. plus, your brain raises the perceived volume of sounds after just a few minutes and so while you are preventing damage from loud sounds, the isolation effect isn’t really that significant

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        First, it won’t stop the problem.

        Second, you stupidly posted about it online meaning it’s a planned thing. He might be accidentally loud. You’re planning harassment. Guess who the cops will arrest.

        He’s a person. Talk to him nicely. He may have no idea at all that he’s bothering people, so don’t come in hot like a crazy person.

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          I had no idea our 40lb Boston Terrier/Beagle mix walking around was so loud for our downstairs neighbors. After they told us, we invested in some rugs to try and dampen the sound.

          Of course, they would get into screaming matches at 3am with each other until the cops were called - then the cops would ring our buzzer because they refused to answer.

          I do not miss apartment living.

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          No because it’s obvious he’s harassing me. Any time I make the smallest noise he bangs on the wall

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          What do I have to lose . And it’s not like I have a choice either, I can’t see afford to move I’m trapped here in a cycle of suffering and literal hell

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    Don’t escalate, he is home all day and has more time to escalate.

    Talk nicely, make a friend, move are all good options.

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    Don’t retaliate, it will only escalate. Use your grown up voice and mention the slamming wakes you up.

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    What’s your relationship with your neighbor? I’d say try to communicate with them before turning this into one of those stereotypical neighbor feuds.

  • BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca
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    What type of neighbor? House, townhouse, apartment?

    What exactly is he banging? Garbage bins, Kitchen Cabinets, Dresser, Closet?

    There are solutions that don’t involve being an asshole back to them in some of those situations.

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    Definitely don’t do any revenge before just asking him nicely, and then maybe not so nicely; if that fails, go for it.

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    If you rent, get your landlord to talk with them. It’s likely that they simply don’t know how loud they are. Otherwise you could write a nicely worded letter.

    If all diplomatic options are exhausted, then I would hang up some speakers so they’re facing into the wall; then go ham with the heaviest, bassiest songs I have at all times that your local by-laws allow that also overlap with the times they would be sleeping.

    I did this with a particularly shitty neighbour and it apparently solved the issue (though maybe they were finally evicted). They would be up until 3-4 am (sometimes later) literally blasting music and I have to leave for work by 830am; so, I started blasting some dubstep into walls at 8am.

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      My speakers broke because I am in a third world country and I got jbl speakers from some Romanian website which just broke for some reason and they had a 2 year warranty but apparently they just don’t want to fix them so now I’m poor and can’t buy speakers again why is life so sad

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    I would ask nicely first before becoming aggressive. What’s going on in your head and how you perceive events might totally be different than him. I used to get up at 3am because I liked it. Tried to be quiet but people are imperfect.

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      No he bangs loudly on the wall when I shower late , he also imitates my cats and makes loud chair ahreching noises any time it meows

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      I’m a woman and he is already a deadbeat dad and kind of attractive so I don’t want to take any risks , meaning he’s a POS but I’ve seen him be charming and manipulative so I want to avoid interacting with him as much as possible

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        I just suggest not escalating before you have a chance to just send an anonymous note or something. If you’re worried about him thinking it is you. Polite and concise wordage. Mail it from a drop box if you want to.

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    If he is below put your phone alarm really loud and on vibrate and under a bowl and or pot and let it ring.

    Do it every time hes an asshole. Also do it at 4am so if he wakes at 5 he’s losing that hour of sleep.

    That or the ol frozen piss disc under the door 😄