• Krudler@lemmy.worldEnglish
    763·
    2 days ago

    I completely agree and I have personal experiences to back that up

    I feel like men who have not been allowed to explore their sexuality in a safe way become extremely angry, frustrated, and dangerous

    That’s why I feel like homophobia is something that should be less reviled, and more looked at as a trauma inflicted on the homophobe

    This comes from somebody who works in social services, and I myself am non-binary. I know it’s hard to look at the hate that comes from homophobia with compassion, but I feel like it’s necessary in order for society to heal from it

    • pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
      31·
      2 days ago

      eh? What would that look like?

      That’s why I feel like homophobia is something that should be less reviled, and more looked at as a trauma inflicted on the homophobe

      • Krudler@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        Not entirely sure… but I think you have an issue with the premise of my statement first, if you’d like to discuss that?

        • pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
          5·
          2 days ago

          No, I don’t understand what you’re saying. What would “looking at as a trauma,” look? Would they go to therapy for the trauma inflicted on them for being hateful? I don’t know what you’re saying.

          • curbstickle@anarchist.nexusEnglish
            18·
            2 days ago

            That the trauma inflicted on them drove them to be hateful, not the trauma inflected from being hateful.

            The hate as the result (as in, an unhealthy coping mechanism), not the cause.

            • pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
              11·
              2 days ago

              It seems like a difficult thing to do in practice. You wouldn’t know they had trauma until they started acting out their hate.

              • Krudler@lemmy.worldEnglish
                9·
                2 days ago

                That’s the trauma, the oppression of their own sexual freedom which leads to homophobia

                • pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
                  11·
                  2 days ago

                  But, how would you know to treat it before they acted out their hate? Are you saying we should have compassion after they acted out their homophobia?