it’s truly astounding how many people are incapable of finding the midpoint between “hey i’ve decided you’re trans” and never even mentioning the concept of trans people around someone.

You can talk to people 😭
you can say “hey, this and this and this thing makes me think you’re not quite happy in your body, just letting you know that people can be trans, nonbinary, and any number of other things, so if you want to talk more about it i’m always open and i support whatever your identity is, including staying completely the same as you are now, i just want you to be as comfortable in your own skin as possible.”