I don’t want to judge too much, but it sounds like you need therapy. You aren’t disgusted by sex, you’re disgusted by the thought of *you" having sex, which is odd. It’s like saying you don’t like a food without ever trying it. You need to be willing to give it a try at least once, with an open mind, to actually know if you don’t like it.
Gonna be real dawg, this is like telling a gay guy who’s never fucked a woman “But are you sure??? If you keep your mind open you might like pussy bro.”
With the food analogy, you could hear a description of a food, and then make a decision on if you’d actually want to eat it or not. If I know I don’t like spicy-sweet and tropical foods in general and then someone says, “hey, wanna try this stir-fry with a coconut mango sauce?” I think I can make a reasonable assumption that I’d hate that shit.
It’s up to a individual to decide if they want to have sex or not, and even though therapy might be needed to work through some thoughts, at the end of the day if you’re uncomfortable you just shouldn’t do it.
Sure, except they like the idea of sex. If they were disgusted by sex, sure you’re right. They aren’t though. It’s only they are disgusted about themselves being involved. That sounds like a mental block. It isn’t sex that’s the issue. It’s something involving themselves.
Okay, I could’ve workshoped it more sure. But I feel like you can still get a similar idea from it. The dish is something that on paper sounds delicious, but when you actually try it it’s just okay or not appealing. I like fruit, I like ice, but I don’t really dig smoothies. It sounds appealing, but the end result is meh.
Sex sounds like this enjoyable thing, and for many it is, but the reality is you have to take the time to prep your partner, deal with fluids, deal with any sort of gross (but natural) shit that might happen. I guess I could treat it like a sort of porn vs reality situation; porn/ideas gives you the baked cake/finished meal while the reality is you have to bake the cake/make the meal yourself. I love steak, but I don’t want to go through the motions to make said steak.
The dish is something that on paper sounds delicious, but when you actually try it it’s just okay or not appealing. I like fruit, I like ice, but I don’t really dig smoothies. It sounds appealing, but the end result is meh.
This version I totally agree with, but I think it makes my point. They like all the ingredients, but they have some mental block that won’t let them try it combined. They don’t know that they don’t like smoothies. They like fruit and ice, and they like watching other people enjoy smoothies, but when they get close to trying it they get disgusted before actually getting there.
I’m not saying someone has to like sex. I’m just saying this specific person sounds like they don’t dislike sex. They clearly enjoy it in fact. They just have an issue with themselves having sex. I don’t care if they end up not liking it, but I think people should seek help for mental blocks that are preventing them from doing things that they may otherwise enjoy. If they get over that block and end up not liking it then that’s fine, but it’d at least be them having an opinion on the actual thing, rather than feeling disgust when they get close to doing it.
I don’t want to judge too much, but it sounds like you need therapy. You aren’t disgusted by sex, you’re disgusted by the thought of *you" having sex, which is odd. It’s like saying you don’t like a food without ever trying it. You need to be willing to give it a try at least once, with an open mind, to actually know if you don’t like it.
Gonna be real dawg, this is like telling a gay guy who’s never fucked a woman “But are you sure??? If you keep your mind open you might like pussy bro.”
With the food analogy, you could hear a description of a food, and then make a decision on if you’d actually want to eat it or not. If I know I don’t like spicy-sweet and tropical foods in general and then someone says, “hey, wanna try this stir-fry with a coconut mango sauce?” I think I can make a reasonable assumption that I’d hate that shit.
It’s up to a individual to decide if they want to have sex or not, and even though therapy might be needed to work through some thoughts, at the end of the day if you’re uncomfortable you just shouldn’t do it.
Sure, except they like the idea of sex. If they were disgusted by sex, sure you’re right. They aren’t though. It’s only they are disgusted about themselves being involved. That sounds like a mental block. It isn’t sex that’s the issue. It’s something involving themselves.
Okay, I could’ve workshoped it more sure. But I feel like you can still get a similar idea from it. The dish is something that on paper sounds delicious, but when you actually try it it’s just okay or not appealing. I like fruit, I like ice, but I don’t really dig smoothies. It sounds appealing, but the end result is meh.
Sex sounds like this enjoyable thing, and for many it is, but the reality is you have to take the time to prep your partner, deal with fluids, deal with any sort of gross (but natural) shit that might happen. I guess I could treat it like a sort of porn vs reality situation; porn/ideas gives you the baked cake/finished meal while the reality is you have to bake the cake/make the meal yourself. I love steak, but I don’t want to go through the motions to make said steak.
This version I totally agree with, but I think it makes my point. They like all the ingredients, but they have some mental block that won’t let them try it combined. They don’t know that they don’t like smoothies. They like fruit and ice, and they like watching other people enjoy smoothies, but when they get close to trying it they get disgusted before actually getting there.
I’m not saying someone has to like sex. I’m just saying this specific person sounds like they don’t dislike sex. They clearly enjoy it in fact. They just have an issue with themselves having sex. I don’t care if they end up not liking it, but I think people should seek help for mental blocks that are preventing them from doing things that they may otherwise enjoy. If they get over that block and end up not liking it then that’s fine, but it’d at least be them having an opinion on the actual thing, rather than feeling disgust when they get close to doing it.