• The Rizzler@feddit.org
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        2 days ago

        don’t play games like that in a relationship. Say what you mean. If you’re feeling bad, say what’s wrong, don’t make your girlfriend/wife or husband/boyfriend play a guessing game, get right to the point and spell it out.

          • unemployedclaquer@sopuli.xyz
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            14 hours ago

            Nah it’s not just a romantic partner thing. It’s a toxic family thing. Good if you’ve never experienced it! As mentioned, The Bear episode The Fishes with Jamie Lee Curtis offers an exaggerated example.

          • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip
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            2 days ago

            Because it’s tedious having to consider who might feel excluded, offended, or whatever else on every single innocent thought. I’m sure op didnt mean just women, it’s okay to extrapolate without making a fuss each time.

            • luciferofastora@feddit.org
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              2 days ago

              I don’t think anyone was making a fuss, we all know the force of habit. To me, it looked like a simple reminder.

              If you don’t want to spend that energy and time, will you at least accept the help of others pointing it out? It’s okay to acknowledge when you’re being thoughtless without getting defensive.