• ozebb@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Obviously it’s not for everyone, but I had this conversation with my parents after telling them I planned not to have children and it was… Fine? Kind of a bonding moment, even, we mostly just laughed about it.

    Not every parent/child relationship trends this way, but for some of us there’s a point in adulthood where you just become friends with your parents, and the parent/child roles sort of fall away. If everybody’s mature and secure enough to handle it, talk about whatever the hell you want to.

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      11 months ago

      I am quite certain that you are a skilled enough communicator to not say

      If I had to redo my life, that’s what I’d do.

      Which is directly wishing your children were never born, and is a fundamentally different conversation from “By all means, opt not to have children - our financial lives would look quite different if we did not.”

      As with most things, how you say it matters as much or more than what you’re saying.

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        11 months ago

        You realize one of the benefits of social media is being able to voice a thought without having to refine it first right?

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          11 months ago

          Yes. I also do not see how this person literally regretting their children can possibly be interpreted any other way