You’re making assumptions, and from the perspective of the kids the mom was indeed having beef with them and the father couldn’t stand them drawing too loud regardless of their reason.
Do you think them having kids would change that perspective? Make them one day think “after having 3 mental breakdowns today, I can now see why my non-irrational parents had those continuous lapses of rationality where they took their frustrations on me”?
Do you think them having kids would change that perspective?
yes, i do. i don’t doubt there are some actual abusive parents out there but many more of the conflicts between kids and their parents is caused by the kids having their child perspective. and sadly, mentally developing to the point where the understand what their parents are going through typically takes longer than it takes for the relationship to be destroyed. therefore it is mostly up to the parents to keep it together but they are just people. and their kids talking shit with other kids about them surely does not help…
You’re making assumptions, and from the perspective of the kids the mom was indeed having beef with them and the father couldn’t stand them drawing too loud regardless of their reason.
Do you think them having kids would change that perspective? Make them one day think “after having 3 mental breakdowns today, I can now see why my non-irrational parents had those continuous lapses of rationality where they took their frustrations on me”?
yes, i do. i don’t doubt there are some actual abusive parents out there but many more of the conflicts between kids and their parents is caused by the kids having their child perspective. and sadly, mentally developing to the point where the understand what their parents are going through typically takes longer than it takes for the relationship to be destroyed. therefore it is mostly up to the parents to keep it together but they are just people. and their kids talking shit with other kids about them surely does not help…
The post is a meme-like discussion of about 100 words. Everyone is making assumptions here.