Do you think them having kids would change that perspective?

yes, i do. i don’t doubt there are some actual abusive parents out there but many more of the conflicts between kids and their parents is caused by the kids having their child perspective. and sadly, mentally developing to the point where the understand what their parents are going through typically takes longer than it takes for the relationship to be destroyed. therefore it is mostly up to the parents to keep it together but they are just people. and their kids talking shit with other kids about them surely does not help…