Kids ARE very resilient. That’s the problem. Therapists know this despite the joke.
As a kid you’re so resilient you’ll accept anything as “that’s the way it is” and so a child will shape their themselves around that world view. Then they grow up with a twisted view of how things are and it requires therapy to unlearn that.
It’s like scar tissue on a wound. You healed but you’re not quite the same. That wound is now less sensitive to feeling in it’s environment and can even be more susceptible to further wounding.
Is it resilience to succumb to trauma and push the bad feelings all the way down? I’m glad they got through it, of course, but if we’re talking about definitions then I’m not 100% sold. Resilience, to me, is defined by resisting being wounded in the first place but I will concede that many perspectives will see a few scars as a good trade for whatever else could have happened.
Kids are smarter than we like to believe, and personally I believe in treating them better than the attitude of “because I said so” does(but still also understand that things like trying them as minors and having a relatively high age of consent are good, of course). They are, however, also way more fragile and malleable.
Yup. Like having to re-break and reset a bone that didn’t set correctly. Technically it healed, but it healed in the warped way it was left, and to bring it back to normal you basically have to walk it through its trauma again and let it heal the correct way.
Kids ARE very resilient. That’s the problem. Therapists know this despite the joke.
As a kid you’re so resilient you’ll accept anything as “that’s the way it is” and so a child will shape their themselves around that world view. Then they grow up with a twisted view of how things are and it requires therapy to unlearn that.
It’s like scar tissue on a wound. You healed but you’re not quite the same. That wound is now less sensitive to feeling in it’s environment and can even be more susceptible to further wounding.
As I got older I thought “Thankfully I grew up in a very normal household and turned out to be a very normal person without any psychological trauma.”
And then I got a little older still and realized that wasn’t true at all.
Is it resilience to succumb to trauma and push the bad feelings all the way down? I’m glad they got through it, of course, but if we’re talking about definitions then I’m not 100% sold. Resilience, to me, is defined by resisting being wounded in the first place but I will concede that many perspectives will see a few scars as a good trade for whatever else could have happened.
Kids are smarter than we like to believe, and personally I believe in treating them better than the attitude of “because I said so” does(but still also understand that things like trying them as minors and having a relatively high age of consent are good, of course). They are, however, also way more fragile and malleable.
At the same time, they are also incredibly fragile. The wrong words at the wrong time can have an affect on them for a lifetime.
*effect
The effect could affect their affect.
I can’t decide if this is peak humour, or just an accidentally well timed correction, but I definitely enjoyed it.
Yup. Like having to re-break and reset a bone that didn’t set correctly. Technically it healed, but it healed in the warped way it was left, and to bring it back to normal you basically have to walk it through its trauma again and let it heal the correct way.