Grey text is looking out for their safety, good for them. Blue text is clearly communicating their boundaries, good for them. Neither is phrasing their needs as I would, but that’s small potatoes. I’d rather date either of these people than most of the ones replying in this thread.

Asi seeit yes? Is that an Indian dish? None of my local places seem to have it on their menu.

Wold Newtonry

Yeah, what you’re saying makes sense. I like “bad personality indicator” as an alternative, since it conveys to me it’s one of many indicators you might process, maybe not even consciously. I’ve just had rather negative experiences being “tested” and hearing that world applied to any kind of casual social interaction gets my hackles all the way up.

You’d fail my test if I learn you have tests for people.

Maybe it’s just a matter of phrasing, but the idea that I could be kind to our server all night, tip well, generally hit it out of the park, but be disproportionately judged for failing to do this one small thing because it’s your personal test? Sets my social anxiety off enough that if I knew that were on your mind I’d probably just say we’re not compatible.

Obviously, keep an eye out for shitty people, and don’t put up with bad behaviour, but also judge people as people, wholistically.

A purist would know that it’s not Star Trek if Kirk, Spock, and McCoy are not present. We don’t need French men with English accents or William T. Ripoff!

Worrying over internet comments is a sure sign of anxiety, possibly OCD, maybe even PTSD if there’s a particular trigger.

If I were calling about a reference and heard this story related, I’d say to myself “great, so they’re willing to ask probing questions to clarify requirements.”

That could save weeks of work on some projects, and I’m not so desperate for clients that I’d want to work with one who would walk over a simple request for clarification.

Is this that feminist riddle again?

No way. Most Disney characters are horny as hell.

It’s a room with a big mattress you can sleep on - but please, my name’s not Matt.

LOAD “*”, 8, 1

If I were an overworked teacher, I’d still rather award the point. Just throw down a checkmark and move on. I don’t need to write an explanation, and the kid/parents are not going to complain.

What?

IDCLIP

Lawful evil. If I’m just reading through a book and can’t remember where I left off, it’s probably not a book worth coming back to. Bookmarks are exclusively for passages I want to come back to after I’ve finished the book - in those cases it’s usually just a scrap of paper.

I like helping people, but not with what I do for my day job. Ask me to shovel your driveway or help you move or proofread your emails or anything but more of what I’ve already spent all day doing.

No, no, he’s just a little elf prince. Never worked out a day in his life, no sir. Probably a vegetarian.

Perhaps http://meninhats.com?

Theory of relativity. Which one is in the mirror is entirely dependent on your frame of reference.