To all those saying, “but why shouldn’t men want to be cared for?”

This meme plays into a narrative the makes women subservient.

It suggests that only men “battle”, and that being a man and “battling” entities them to care by women.

No where in this is acknowledgement that women have burdens too, and that all people benefit from care.

No where in this is any hint of reciprocity. If anything, it implies that the “joy” of taking care of “her man” should be enough.

No. Walk the fuck on. Having a penis doesn’t entitle you to one-sided care.

The other thing implied by this - that women should ‘naturally’ be able to fix ‘her man’. But if a woman in broken? Oof - ‘she has Daddy issues’ and better fix herself, right?

And what if a woman tries to fix ‘her man’ and fails? Oh look - isnt that convenient - society just took all his faults and made them her failures. Wow! Who wouldn’t want to sign up for that??

And just look at that success rate. You can count up the number of women killed by intimate partners and see how great this plan is.

Society really needs to get past this childish narrative that tells men they should expect to find a manic pixie dream girl who lives only to make him happy. Men make fun of girls for believing in Prince Charming, but this is truly the more destructive fairy tale.

I’ve seen my coworkers take paternity leave, which I think is like 8 weeks where I work.

Generally, they’ve staggered it with their spouse so that one parent is working and the other on child care, rather than both being out over the same window. Typically the Dad’s have taken their leave a couple months after the baby is born when Mom is returning to work. It keeps the baby out of daycare for as long as possible.