Because swearing was strictly forbidden in my household and i picked it up in late high school and early college partially as an act of defiance.

I made friends also more interested in content and quality of thought than on politeness and that was dope AF.

Now it’s part of my lexicon, just a casual turn of phrase.

“Ay yo, that shit is fire” conveys the same sentiment as “Wow! That’s really cool.”

I’m a mechanical engineer and a writer. Words are words. They have meanings and those meanings change over time and with context/audience.

People who don’t ever swear feel repressed to me. It’s a weird vibe. Not a fan.

Sure! Your reasons are valid and I’m not asking you to defend them.

I certainly don’t like everything in any of those categories either. I’ve got slices I’m into, but yeah, the broad categories are def part of my interests.

Blocking regional communities is one thing, sure.

I was partially joking, but anime, cartoons, sports, and some tasteful/ethical NSFW are all topics I’m hella interested in but don’t get much play here. There’s basically no boxing/MMA/basketball/football here.

Each day i feel too normie for this place

I’m not into the skinny models that most porn features and a lot of irl porn comes with a host of ethical issues,

Wait, you’re blocking porn, sports, and anime?

Those are the fun parts…

It varies wildly from person to person, and my wife and I work so well as partners cause we have vastly different lists of what we consider exhausting.

Specifically for me?

• Well-intentioned but unskilled people who insist on helping but don’t have the capacity to do so or the self-awareness to understand when their efforts are counterproductive
• Talking to my side of the family
• Checking work emails. Not writing them. Just checking them.
• Code-switching to talk to white people.
• Watching shows or reading books I dislike just for the sake of completing them
• Dealing with zoners in fighting games
• Lingering in silent spaces.
• Following recipes.

Talking to strangers? No issue. High intensity games? Let’s do it. Complicated or arduous manual labor? Hell yeah.

Increased rates of neurodivergence on a leftist founded Reddit alternative?

It’s less “venture to guess” and more “I’d bet my life savings on that being true.”

Shit. I’m here with ADHD.

The mod history you posted definitely makes it look like they have a clear idea what kind of bikini/community they want and you don’t fit and neither of you were gonna change.

I’ve got negative interest in Beehaw. I’m not defending them or calling you a malcontent. They might be actual fascists for all i know. I’ve had 0 interactions with them.

Just saying that it’s clear who they want and it’s not you

Mastodon. The people are kinda weird, in different ways than I am weird, but if I post consistently enough I’ll build a community or something. I bounce between there and Twitter cause neither community is 100% satisfying

MBin, cause I want to be able to access Lemmy without being on Lemmy

That’s what i thought you meant. Thanks!

in my case, the diaspora didn’t change me so much as it displaced me.

Now I’m here and there. Much like Twitter and Masto where i do more content viewing on the legacy site where there’s more content, but more posting on the FOSS alternative because of ideological imperative to see it grow even if its content doesn’t serve me (yet?)

Actually, I’m kind of curious:

What do you mean “because of the nature of the reddit migration?”

What do you mean by “actively surpressing a community?”

Do you have any articles on the origin of Reddit? It came out of Digg, right?

Yeah i hear you. Reddit was white on average but Lemmy/Kbin feels like baby powder on top of fresh snow

Are there people discussing comics or pro wrestling on here with any frequency?

None. I use none. Kraft Mac is already bad but if I’m in the mood for something nostalgic there are a dozen other things i would add first

I think this sort of unfulfilled promise has been the biggest obstacle of my full scale adoption of a reddit alternatives.

As a non-typical Lemmy user (No interest in privacy, piracy, Linux, FOSS, Web Dev, SW Dev, Veganism, or discussing political theory with strangers online) finding active communities in topics i am interested in (basketball, football, hip hop and rap, martial arts, boxing, mma, PC building, relationships, kink, and the specific humor and nuance that comes with being a Black person on the internet) has been a struggle.

Many of those communities have two people or less posting in them or don’t exist at all.

People are talking here but not about things i wanna discuss and that’s disappointing so i have a hard time “sticking” if that makes sense

Yeah, i think that’s a very helpful distinction. Something like Beehaw or Hexbear is defined more by its rules than its software.

I added Bee as a fourth item because people described it as a separate item/entity/community/experience than the others. Its limited federation somewhat corroberates this sentiment IMO.

Lol I woke up to 2 deleted comments, some vitriol directed at their writer, and your comment here.

What happened?

Yeah! I remember reading that Beehaw had defederated from a lot of servers; the people who talk about it genuinely have strong feelings one way or the other. It sounds like a planned housing community or gated community but online, and that generates some very polarizing opinions.

It’s also the one I have the least interest in exploring at the moment.

Edit: Tied with Hexbear

I think it’s this in large part. Lemmy’s users are by and large migrants from Reddit for various reason.

But also, this place exists as an ideological alternative to Reddit more than a technical one. The API-pocalypse (API-calypse?) and enshitification and shameless money grabs to inflate stock prices were the final straws for a lot of people but it’s no secret that there are a series of positions and interests that are (assumed to be) shared by all the current Lemmy users.

As Lemmy grows its instances will continually have to determine who, what, and what beliefs and practices are welcome there

But also some people are just jackasses and need to argue, and they come into contact with people who want the same thing.

Fighting games, easily. Where you have 2 people you have a scene, no matter how old or obscure it is.