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  • GreenKnight23@lemmy.worldtotumblr@lemmy.worldRemember being 15
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    2 days ago

    Teenagers are in development of becoming an individual. They may behave personalities, but they haven’t tempered them for society yet.

    that’s exactly my point. I understand they have to be tempered by society. Once they have achieved this level of tempering it’s respectable for the amount of effort they put in. some people though, never get through that tempering and I cannot respect them. I understand they may have social anxiety or some other reason, but I can’t trust them like others that have so I can’t respect them like others. there are other ways to respect though.

    I’d argue the best outcomes come through respect, patient connections with adults who demonstrate composure and allow them to grow that composure.

    IMO that’s not respect, thats understanding. If you respected them, you would at least seem them as equals to yourself and treat them as an equal. You understand they aren’t at the same level as yourself and give them some leeway to “feel it out” and find their own path. this includes supporting them when they make mistakes or explaining how to avoid the mistakes in the future.

    I don’t know what you’re suggesting other than with holding respect.

    respect is a gift given from one individual to another. it signifies the trust one has in the other. A child respects a parent because they trust the parent. when the trust is broken, the respect dies with it. infact, respect of an adult is important to the development of a young mind and is a mechanism used to emulate the adult. if you respect someone, you might want to try being like them, even when you’re an adult.

    so in short, I disagree that respect should be given automatically. It’s earned through nurturing relationships and built on trust.