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I was advised by a group therapist, when having “cold feet” about commitment in a relationship, to just think about how bad the alternative might be. She had a friend who had reservations about getting married, and then thought not getting married would be stressful too, so she went ahead with the marriage. It was terrible advice, especially from a therapist providing guidance for some very troubled people. The only good reason to commit to a relationship is because you really want it, not because you’re afraid of what will happen otherwise!
I think you make a valid point, in the sense that, ideally, there would be some way for objectively anti-social and toxic content to be removed by the force of popular opinion. However, the trouble is that we can’t trust anyone in particular to be the flawless arbiter of such a standard. Mods do their best, or do what they like, but they can be wrong, power-tripping, or simply confused, etc. The masses or people in general also do their best, or do what they like, but likewise can be wrong, power-tripping, or simply confused, etc. Popular opinion cannot always be counted on to go the right way. There are many situations where what is popular is actually deeply disturbed and irrational. The best that we can do in the current social media landscape, is to choose the mods that we trust the most, or at least distrust the least, join their instances, rely on them to do the basics of keeping garbage out of our feeds, and report or block whatever remains that they don’t catch by the time we see it.
I personally chose to block UniversalMonk after checking out their profile just now, because apparently this person thinks that Luigi Mangione is a scumbag. Maybe there’s a wave of additional UniversalMonks that I will find over time, and I can block those as well. Is it tedious? Sure. But it’s not like I’ve found an instance that is both capable and willing to handle that for me, so it becomes my job.
Others in this thread have made valid points as well, as to why using downvotes as a form of control isn’t a good idea.
I personally think that using downvotes to mean “disagree” is not necessarily a misuse or abuse of downvoting. But it often is. It’s complicated.