Xmas, new year, valentine’s… Seems like the festivities are there just to remind me how much I failed as an adult man incapable of getting company. It’s been over a decade since I’ve felt this way and nothing changes.
Alcohol and porn has lost its charm over the years.
For myself. I drove to a cold rocky beach, ate turkey sandwiches alone, and screamed at the ocean. It became a tradition.
Learn to celebrate .
If it’s your bag, looking into faith communities to for Christmas. You can celebrate the holiday for the religious reason. Decorate and find events, like public tree lighting.
For new years there are usually big public countdowns somewhere. If you can ‘get into it’ just going to an event can help you enjoy it. Get a hat and a noise maker.
It’s going to be up to you to figure make your own excitement and enjoyment for the holidays.
Valentines day sucks for everyone. Just Yikes.
Look for social media event spaces, meetup.com helped me find stuff decades ago.
Read up on stoicism as well as absurdism if your not a religious kind of person. They aren’t answers but can help you find the right questions.
Meetup is so underated. There are great groups on there!