• The Snark Urge@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    I have to hope I can support my kid enough that they don’t resent being mixed in such a bigoted world.

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      8 months ago

      I have hope for the future. The kids are alright, in my experience. They’ll be better than our generation(s).

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        8 months ago

        In my experience, people increase in quality the more highly they’re valued.

        …And though I can’t prove it, I feel like my generation cares more about their kids than my parents’ generation did.

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          8 months ago

          Even if the amount of care is the same, previous generations have been fucking torched by being encouraged not to show that they care. Men especially.

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          8 months ago

          Ive been noticing this. Since this post is about black folks, i can anecdotally say ive been seeing some great black fathers around that are around my age (30ish, we’ll say). Im thinking in particular of someone i know who said it straight, “i want to be the dad mine never was.” I wont say his kid is his world, bc hes not obsessive, we hardly talk about the kid, but he tells me thats all he wants to do with his free time: spend time with his young boy. Hes not the only one i see this in, but hes kinda who i always think of when this topic comes up.

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        8 months ago

        Every generation thinks this. Yet adults continue to setup children for failure expecting them to clean up their mess.

        No fuck that. Let’s start now and fix issues — climate change, racial disparity, gender wage gap, re-secure abortion rights, housing shortage.

        These can be solved long before our children are born. We just refuse to do anything. Governments sit on their ass while O&G pollutes the planet. People refuse to change their lifestyles and accept change is needed (ie, change from inefficient car centric transportation and suburban sprawl in USA, widening highways). With AI making strides towards making a large portion of population jobless, universal basic income needs to be discussed. Investing in the people through more support programs and lifting people out of poverty. Healthcare for all.

        We can’t even get this basic shit right. What makes you think children in the future will? Generations of today were setup for failure. Generations of tomorrow are set up for failure.

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          8 months ago

          Thinking that the next generation will be better than our’s isn’t saying “We should sit around and do nothing.” It’s an expression of hope, not lethargy.

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    8 months ago

    Race in and of itself can be confusing.

    My daughter in law is from Myanmar and was attacked by an elderly hispanic gentleman for “not speaking your own language”.

    It was cool, we explained that, despite appearances, Burmese are not hispanic. He apologized profusely.

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    As someone who is mixed race, I felt this so much ;-;

    Even worse when ppl of your generation (gen z) try to make you out as a completely white girl cuz of growing up some what privileged (even despite them knowing that you grew up in a very intensively abusive environment)

    Like as if I had a choice in being born lol

    It’s like I just can’t win and I’ll never be able to fit in anywhere cuz of these labels and standards ppl have to determine if your mixed race or not and it’s a literal form of ancestral erasure, which is just purely disrespectful and out right offensive imo.

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    8 months ago

    American fascination with the idea that there are different human ‘races’ is bewildering.

    It’s made up. The idea that there are different human races is a social construct. Just like gender.

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      Unfortunately that made-up idea is being used in the real world and creating real consequences.

      And we’ve found that trying to ignore race only allows racists more free rein to treat everyone with a skin color darker than paper terribly.

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        Agreed. I would like to see countries like the US move past the 19th century concept “race” and into a bit more of a nuanced understanding of ethnicity, though.

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      American? Do you think America invented racism? This is certainly a fire that’s been burning for a long time and there isn’t a single culture that can yet claim victory over it.

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      American fascination with the idea that there are different human ‘races’ is bewildering.

      If you think this is a uniquely American phenomenon, I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you.

      It’s made up. The idea that there are different human races is a social construct. Just like gender.

      Okay…? That doesn’t make it influence our lives any less?

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      The South African state had some brilliant methodology for determining exactly how black any given person is so they could decide how racist they needed to be.