I was in a long term relationship with someone with a drinking problem. When a drunk person says something to you they fucking mean it. Their filter is weaker and, as I label it “they have the courage to say something that they were afraid to say sober.” When you figure this out everything is easier to understand.
While drunkenness isn’t a blanket excuse for behavior, I don’t believe it’s inherently fair to say we are our true selves while drunk. Alcohol affects our reasoning, it doesn’t merely remove filters.
There’s an old saying that the first thought in your head is what you’re conditioned to think, and the second is what you actually think. Kind of an ego/id thing.
I like this better. I’m not sure if it’s 100% true - hard to know what a thought actually is, when you get super specific - but I like that it’s kinder.
True to an extent but there’s also a level of brain damage that can come with long term alcoholism (or extreme intoxication) where they lose the ability to form coherent thoughts while plastered and their drunk ramblings can be contradictory.
I regularly tell people I absolutely hate that I love them while drunk. It’s how my brain makes sure I don’t tell them to go fuck themselves… I also tell everyone i like, that I love them though…
I was in a long term relationship with someone with a drinking problem. When a drunk person says something to you they fucking mean it. Their filter is weaker and, as I label it “they have the courage to say something that they were afraid to say sober.” When you figure this out everything is easier to understand.
While drunkenness isn’t a blanket excuse for behavior, I don’t believe it’s inherently fair to say we are our true selves while drunk. Alcohol affects our reasoning, it doesn’t merely remove filters.
Alcohol makes you feel and act different way. Your statement is not correct
There’s an old saying that the first thought in your head is what you’re conditioned to think, and the second is what you actually think. Kind of an ego/id thing.
I like this better. I’m not sure if it’s 100% true - hard to know what a thought actually is, when you get super specific - but I like that it’s kinder.
Huh, mines backwards… I wonder if people with “no filter” are similar. I just take a long time to process conversations, it’s actually exhasting.
True to an extent but there’s also a level of brain damage that can come with long term alcoholism (or extreme intoxication) where they lose the ability to form coherent thoughts while plastered and their drunk ramblings can be contradictory.
Not every drunk/alcoholic person is the same. Bummer you had that experience though.
I regularly tell people I absolutely hate that I love them while drunk. It’s how my brain makes sure I don’t tell them to go fuck themselves… I also tell everyone i like, that I love them though…