Pointing out how it’s not a new phenominon. This is an entrenched fight that will take decades. Not some sudden scrap where everything can go back to normal after covfefe is out…
If you read the OP it doesn’t say anything about it being a new phenomenon. Even if that’s what this comment “accomplished” is it worth shitting on someone for sharing their emotions? It comes across as self congratulatory, like the commenter is above the OP because they’ve experienced negative circumstances for longer.
FWIW, I meant it in welcome, not patronizing dickery.
Take a walk, fellow prol, breathe the air. It was levity, not whatever you’ve got there, triggering on default. (FFS. This place smells of reddit more every day.)
Thank you for clarifying you didn’t intend to be patronizing. That said, I invite you to re-read the content of what you wrote:
Hey, OP. Welcome to your 30s. 🎉 New to the US, or just seeing it for the first time?
After OP just expressed emotional distress, you said “Welcome to your 30s”, which implies you think that has something to do with what they just said. “This feeling is part of being in your thirties, when you start to notice things are wrong in the world.” Not a stereotype I’ve heard before, but reading it as a straight welcome doesn’t make sense either because OP didn’t say “I just turned 30,” they said they’re 32. This isn’t a new age bracket for them.
That reading is bolstered by the next part. After OP is crashing out about the state of the world, you asked if they’re new to the US or just seeing it for the first time. The “or” implies these are the only two reasons why OP might be bringing this up. “Are you new here or did you just start paying attention?”
Even if you were going for a “Welcome to the club friend, things have been fucked up for a long time,” I don’t think it’s an effective comment because of the tone, and you’re assuming this is the first time they’ve thought about it, and that they don’t know that things have been bad before. That may be true, but sometimes people just want to vent. I understand it’s common to become jaded over time if only just for self protection, but it’s valuable to still be able to be outraged and to experience injustice fresh.
I appreciate you having good intentions. I think a sincere reading of the words can end up with the impression I shared.
I don’t see it that way. The 30’s comment could easily just be a reference to the “32 years old” in the OP.
Being new to the US or seeing it for the first time is a valid question, too, as again, the referenced phenominon is not new. It could’ve been posted in the 2010’s, the 2000’s, the 90’s, the 80’s, etc…
Asking if someone has just noticed is only insulting depending on tone, and text does not convey tone. So any animosity is your own reading of the text. Why do you view simple questions as confrontational?
What is the benefit of making a comment like this?
Pointing out how it’s not a new phenominon. This is an entrenched fight that will take decades. Not some sudden scrap where everything can go back to normal after covfefe is out…
If you read the OP it doesn’t say anything about it being a new phenomenon. Even if that’s what this comment “accomplished” is it worth shitting on someone for sharing their emotions? It comes across as self congratulatory, like the commenter is above the OP because they’ve experienced negative circumstances for longer.
FWIW, I meant it in welcome, not patronizing dickery.
Take a walk, fellow prol, breathe the air. It was levity, not whatever you’ve got there, triggering on default. (FFS. This place smells of reddit more every day.)
Thank you for clarifying you didn’t intend to be patronizing. That said, I invite you to re-read the content of what you wrote:
After OP just expressed emotional distress, you said “Welcome to your 30s”, which implies you think that has something to do with what they just said. “This feeling is part of being in your thirties, when you start to notice things are wrong in the world.” Not a stereotype I’ve heard before, but reading it as a straight welcome doesn’t make sense either because OP didn’t say “I just turned 30,” they said they’re 32. This isn’t a new age bracket for them.
That reading is bolstered by the next part. After OP is crashing out about the state of the world, you asked if they’re new to the US or just seeing it for the first time. The “or” implies these are the only two reasons why OP might be bringing this up. “Are you new here or did you just start paying attention?”
Even if you were going for a “Welcome to the club friend, things have been fucked up for a long time,” I don’t think it’s an effective comment because of the tone, and you’re assuming this is the first time they’ve thought about it, and that they don’t know that things have been bad before. That may be true, but sometimes people just want to vent. I understand it’s common to become jaded over time if only just for self protection, but it’s valuable to still be able to be outraged and to experience injustice fresh.
I appreciate you having good intentions. I think a sincere reading of the words can end up with the impression I shared.
I don’t see it that way. The 30’s comment could easily just be a reference to the “32 years old” in the OP.
Being new to the US or seeing it for the first time is a valid question, too, as again, the referenced phenominon is not new. It could’ve been posted in the 2010’s, the 2000’s, the 90’s, the 80’s, etc…
Asking if someone has just noticed is only insulting depending on tone, and text does not convey tone. So any animosity is your own reading of the text. Why do you view simple questions as confrontational?
Might wanna dial back that last question, just in case. 😅😶