• apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
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    2 days ago

    Better yet, ask them what feels good, and establish communication of pleasure. Your partner, regardless of genitals, will have a better time, and so will you!

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      1 day ago

      That only works if they actually answer. Sometimes it’s just easier to gauge reactions.

      Sometimes they can’t talk coherently *wink wink*

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        1 day ago

        Communication doesn’t need to be verbal - and I’m more talking about setting the precedent for communicating about pleasure as a practice. Being able to communicate about pleasure takes you a lot further in mutual pleasure than having a “trick”, yknow?

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          1 day ago

          Yeah well, you said to ask, while the actual point is “listen” (and “feel”), that is what I meant

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            1 day ago

            Well, even if the other person doesn’t communicate their answer verbally, you can ask verbally :) it is the most direct way to establish an open pathway for communication.

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              23 hours ago

              Yeah my problem in the past has been that they may be embarrassed to answer or just not know what to ask for