• Cethin@lemmy.zip
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    6 days ago

    Generally, yes, but if you’re a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they’re just people.

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      5 days ago

      Wish I was normal. I am WAY too socially awkward to start a conversation. Usually I need at least a couple of hours to warm up to somebody.

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        5 days ago

        I feel I get that way when I’m out of practice for too long. These days, I just need a bit of coffee and I’m usually good to go with some light small talk lol.

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          4 hours ago

          Occupy the same space and have group conversations instead of one-on-ones I guess.

          Like, invite people to join your group instead of going out just with you, it’s less threatening and less of a “thing”.

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            3 hours ago

            That’s what I meant though. It shouldn’t be “a thing.” It’s just a conversation. Group conversations are still conversations. You just have to see them as people, not as a goal. Once you get to know them and you find out of you actually like them, as a person, then you can more easily persue them without seeming weird.