• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    17 天前

    this is classic abuse victim rationalization.

    Just because she treats you less like shit than other people in the past have, doesn’t mean she still isn’t treating you like shit.

    • rabber@lemmy.caOP
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      17 天前

      I’m mentally ill too to be clear so it kind of goes both ways here lol. I’m a self destructive type of person so I feel like I almost deserve and even enjoy being treated like shit in some sort of way

      I’m raised by narcissists and I’m slowly deprogramming from that and I hate to admit this but I think part of the reason I like her is she is extremely easy to manipulate and it’s easy for me to get her to do whatever I want. I don’t really intend to manipulate people but it’s still something I do sometimes that I really wish I didn’t. People with BPD are easily manipulated usually

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          17 天前

          So far it feels like a net win compared to the rest of my shit life and I was single for 1.5 years before this and I couldn’t really stand it anymore

          No normal girl is going to tolerate me in a long term relationship, they are completely out of my league