• porksnort@slrpnk.net
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    1 day ago

    Your experience is valid, as it happened to you and none of us in this thread were there probably anyway.

    In my experience, friends don’t end friendships over homophobia. They just suddenly become very busy and they have less and less time to spend with the person who comes out as bi.

    ‘Bi erasure’ is such a common phenomenon that we invented the term ‘bi erasure’.

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      24 hours ago

      Also I come from a different background to the most of those who are here. In Russia, we have this state propaganda that seals homophobia and since nobody is trusting the government propaganda, a lot of people are simply curious what it is to be gay (or bi, trans). And homophobia is not typical to what I hear from my peers in the west: it often has somewhat patronizing form of “don’t you know that if you say you’re gay, you’ll get a lot of trouble”. It was literally the thing I said to a lovely gay couple when we went to the bar in Saint Petersburg.