I’m all for refusing to tip, but be up-front about it. Let the server know ahead of time that you won’t be tipping. Hell, let the manager (or if it’s a smaller place, the owner) know too, so you can actually get your opinion heard by someone who may be able to effect change. Make it clear that your refusal to tip is not a reflection of the server, but a protest against tipping culture.
Hell, while talking to the manager, you should also ask if they require servers to tip out the back-of-house staff. If you’re refusing to tip, it’s entirely possible that your server is losing money on your order, because they’re required to pay the kitchen a percentage of your bill. If the server is required to tip out, be clear that you want your bill excluded from the tip out, since you’re refusing to tip based on strongly held personal beliefs. If the manager protests or says it isn’t possible (it is possible, but they’ll lie to try to get you to tip), then they can serve you personally.
You’ll still get served, but it’ll be with the level of service that the waiter thinks you should get, rather than with the level of service that you think you deserve. If you’re going to refuse to tip, at least take the mask off and be honest so your server can do the same.
If you’re willing to do that, then more power to you. Believe it or not, many servers will be chill about it, and treat you the same as any other customer. Especially if you’re there when it’s slow, and they don’t need to tip out the back of house staff. They’re not losing any money by serving you, and they aren’t super busy so they have no reason to ignore you. But if you’re afraid to be honest because you might get worse service, then you’re just a scab who is leeching from the tipping culture and only hurting the working class.
It’s not a “service”. All I want from the staff is to tell them what I want to order and to bring the food. That’s all. I don’t see what extra “service” I’m supposedly paying for
SITTING DOWN, waiting on you, and then BRINGING YOU FOOD, ensuring it’s up to your standards after a couple bites, if you don’t want that SERVICE get fucking take out! It’s that fucking easy!
No, your comment is asinine and completely irrelevant, when you call tech support for example, Apple or AT&T, you are already paying their damn salaries with the bill you pay each month (plus they get paid more an hr-duh).
You don’t pay my salary when you come in dine at my table for hours and eat like $200 worth of food and provide NO tip! You occupied my table knowing others could come in and give me a better tips, that’s the difference!! You clearly haven’t worked in the food industry before.
I have! But in a civilized country, not the USA. I do pay your salary when I go to the restaurant, yes. You are paid by the restaurant only because people go there and eat. Your salary is literally dependant on people ordering food. It is the service you provide, you are not a fucking independent contractor that I have personally hires to serve my table lol. You are on the restaurant’s payroll, same as tech support is on whatever company’s payroll. No tips for one, no tips to the other. A techy gets paid the same whether they spend 5 hours on a ticket and licks the customer’s dick, or if they spend one hour and are complete asses.
Yeah, you have never worked the service industry in America so… comment invalid.
Don’t like tipping in the US than don’t go out, or stay in whatever county you are skimming servers out of tips you live in…
My restaurant actually pays us more than the bogus ass fed minimum wage and I don’t have to “kiss ass” of customers they genuinely like me, might be hard for you to comprehend but I get well over 20% on almost every table. I can make $3-4k a month with my wage and shifts like 25hrs a week, that’s what’s wrong in the US. When you make more as a server with half the hours than a full time teacher, something’s got to change…
Bottom line, my restaurant pays me $11.10/hr or $15/hr (asst manager) plus tips so basically tip your servers or do not go out and hit a drive thru instead. Stop punishing us because of what you believe in…
I don’t tip for take out I have to pick up myself. But tipping culture here in The Netherlands is vastly different than the US. We basically only tip in restaurants, and only if the service was really good. Most people don’t tip for bad or average service.
Yeah, a lot of people don’t tip for take out, but who do you think makes and puts together your order for a nice restaurant take out? (I work for a Sushi and Steakhouse). Sadly, we have to and ensure orders are right and still don’t get tipped. It’s not a McDonald’s (we have many other options and temps of food, etc.). You came to a nice restaurant for take out and we ensure all is well, we had to put together your order and ensure all food is correct, it’s vastly different than a fast food drive thru. Yes, you had to pick it up but we still had to put the order together and ensure all the fine food is correct. If that makes sense, it’s different.
We don’t just heat up a cooked burger patty and put it on a bun and shove you through a drive thru, it’s 100% different. You came to a sushi steakhouse with different orders and temps of foods with modifications very different than the standard “take out”.
Basically, America just needs to pay the employees vs tips but that’s not changing. I was a teacher for years but with the recent political drama and parents shoving their kids to iPads with no respect I left and found out I am making almost 3X a month as a server than a teacher, that’s savage!
Fuck tips. 0 tips. Pay your people.
I’m all for refusing to tip, but be up-front about it. Let the server know ahead of time that you won’t be tipping. Hell, let the manager (or if it’s a smaller place, the owner) know too, so you can actually get your opinion heard by someone who may be able to effect change. Make it clear that your refusal to tip is not a reflection of the server, but a protest against tipping culture.
Hell, while talking to the manager, you should also ask if they require servers to tip out the back-of-house staff. If you’re refusing to tip, it’s entirely possible that your server is losing money on your order, because they’re required to pay the kitchen a percentage of your bill. If the server is required to tip out, be clear that you want your bill excluded from the tip out, since you’re refusing to tip based on strongly held personal beliefs. If the manager protests or says it isn’t possible (it is possible, but they’ll lie to try to get you to tip), then they can serve you personally.
You’ll still get served, but it’ll be with the level of service that the waiter thinks you should get, rather than with the level of service that you think you deserve. If you’re going to refuse to tip, at least take the mask off and be honest so your server can do the same.
If you’re willing to do that, then more power to you. Believe it or not, many servers will be chill about it, and treat you the same as any other customer. Especially if you’re there when it’s slow, and they don’t need to tip out the back of house staff. They’re not losing any money by serving you, and they aren’t super busy so they have no reason to ignore you. But if you’re afraid to be honest because you might get worse service, then you’re just a scab who is leeching from the tipping culture and only hurting the working class.
You pay for the service of being waited on… don’t want to tip… then go to McDonald’s! wtf! 🤬
It’s not a “service”. All I want from the staff is to tell them what I want to order and to bring the food. That’s all. I don’t see what extra “service” I’m supposedly paying for
SITTING DOWN, waiting on you, and then BRINGING YOU FOOD, ensuring it’s up to your standards after a couple bites, if you don’t want that SERVICE get fucking take out! It’s that fucking easy!
I like prompt refills. I’m happy to tip for that.
If I was your server, I would get you!! Never would be empty! Usually half full is when I ask if they want another.
the restaurant pays for their staff… should you pay for having a table and chair too? staff is a basic requirement of a restaurant
Welcome to America where tipping culture is a thing, don’t like it, get take out and fuck off!
Do you tip for the service for customer tech support or similar customer facing industries as well?
No, your comment is asinine and completely irrelevant, when you call tech support for example, Apple or AT&T, you are already paying their damn salaries with the bill you pay each month (plus they get paid more an hr-duh).
You don’t pay my salary when you come in dine at my table for hours and eat like $200 worth of food and provide NO tip! You occupied my table knowing others could come in and give me a better tips, that’s the difference!! You clearly haven’t worked in the food industry before.
I have! But in a civilized country, not the USA. I do pay your salary when I go to the restaurant, yes. You are paid by the restaurant only because people go there and eat. Your salary is literally dependant on people ordering food. It is the service you provide, you are not a fucking independent contractor that I have personally hires to serve my table lol. You are on the restaurant’s payroll, same as tech support is on whatever company’s payroll. No tips for one, no tips to the other. A techy gets paid the same whether they spend 5 hours on a ticket and licks the customer’s dick, or if they spend one hour and are complete asses.
Yeah, you have never worked the service industry in America so… comment invalid.
Don’t like tipping in the US than don’t go out, or stay in whatever county you are skimming servers out of tips you live in…
My restaurant actually pays us more than the bogus ass fed minimum wage and I don’t have to “kiss ass” of customers they genuinely like me, might be hard for you to comprehend but I get well over 20% on almost every table. I can make $3-4k a month with my wage and shifts like 25hrs a week, that’s what’s wrong in the US. When you make more as a server with half the hours than a full time teacher, something’s got to change…
Bottom line, my restaurant pays me $11.10/hr or $15/hr (asst manager) plus tips so basically tip your servers or do not go out and hit a drive thru instead. Stop punishing us because of what you believe in…
Is there an option to pick up my own food at the counter? I’d gladly do it.
Yes, it’s call take out. But still employees have to put the order together, bag it, and ensure everything is 100%, so def should tip them something!
I don’t tip for take out I have to pick up myself. But tipping culture here in The Netherlands is vastly different than the US. We basically only tip in restaurants, and only if the service was really good. Most people don’t tip for bad or average service.
Yeah, a lot of people don’t tip for take out, but who do you think makes and puts together your order for a nice restaurant take out? (I work for a Sushi and Steakhouse). Sadly, we have to and ensure orders are right and still don’t get tipped. It’s not a McDonald’s (we have many other options and temps of food, etc.). You came to a nice restaurant for take out and we ensure all is well, we had to put together your order and ensure all food is correct, it’s vastly different than a fast food drive thru. Yes, you had to pick it up but we still had to put the order together and ensure all the fine food is correct. If that makes sense, it’s different.
We don’t just heat up a cooked burger patty and put it on a bun and shove you through a drive thru, it’s 100% different. You came to a sushi steakhouse with different orders and temps of foods with modifications very different than the standard “take out”.
Basically, America just needs to pay the employees vs tips but that’s not changing. I was a teacher for years but with the recent political drama and parents shoving their kids to iPads with no respect I left and found out I am making almost 3X a month as a server than a teacher, that’s savage!