• realitista@lemmus.org
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    4 days ago

    Yes I suppose you could apply that to anything and say sacrifice doesn’t exist for anything. But since we are discussing it, I don’t think we are in the mindspace you are proposing.

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      Nah, sacrifice in regards to your children is absolutely a mindset thing. You can cognitively restructure your thinking in this case.

      If you look at your children and think “wow, I’m not getting anything out of this” I can promise you that your children feel this and will become very distant to you when they grow older. They know when you just think they’re a burden.

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        4 days ago

        This is true for any sort of sacrifice. Volunteering, saving people from burning buildings, giving your last dollar to someone more in need.

        To be clear, I look at my children in the way you describe. I don’t hold “my sacrifices” over their heads, it was a decision I made happily and don’t regret. Same as when I donate money, help someone on the street, etc. But IMO just because it’s a decision (even made happily) doesn’t mean it’s not a sacrifice at the same time.