It’s an app where women upload photos of men they’re dating to get “the tea” on them (red flags, catfishing, etc.). I always wondered if something like this existed. Sucks that it has to, sucks even more if their users are being targeted like this.
The reason that up until now an app like that hasn’t existed is because it is an absolutely awful idea if you spend more than 10 seconds thinking about it.
It’s ripe for abuse in fact I would be surprised if even half of the reports are legitimate. Isn’t absolutely god awful system and whoever thought this up is an absolute prat, who seriously needs to get outside and actually experience real life and real people.
The original incarnation on Facebook got sued for posting libel and shut down. There’s no judge of truth on these apps it’s all she said and no he said.
I mean. A social database I feel is toxic in of itself. It’s makes forgiveness harder, it makes changing yourself harder. What’s the point in changing if people are gonna look you up in a database like this and perhaps forevermore treat you as if you are like that in the present day, forever. It assumes that humans are unchanging, that once a shitty person always a shitty person.
I hear that, I just don’t think this is the way to go about it. Digital reputation system that lives on some corporate dataset is just ripe for terrible problems. It’s terrible for everyone’s privacy when we normalize this shit.
What about people who don’t use this app, do they not deserve to be protected, do they deserve to suffer because they didn’t use this app?
Let’s be real, this app is about gossip, it’s not about protecting women and keeping them safe, it’s literally in the name it’s about “spilling the tea” aka gossip.
Just goes to show how lost you are in your feminist supremacy bubble, that even leftist spaces like lemmy think this thing is creepy.
This already happened in my country, Secret was an app that got huge while I was finishing high school, an anonymous platform for people to confess private stuff, it rapidly became bully culture and libel central.
You sort of started it with your comment. I don’t want to be around people that feel the need to document everything on a website. Please inform those around you so they can decide to opt out.
!["Tea" app - user database leaked today (incl. drivers license & IDs). Daily reminder not to give your ID to online services [THEY DO NOT PROTECT YOUR INFORMATION]](https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/pictrs/image/82b85434-7879-471f-b645-e6a7281e3baf.webp){kind=link}
Found this article after a quick web search: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kateoflahertyuk/2025/07/24/what-is-tea-the-viral-women-only-app-with-1-million-downloads/
It’s an app where women upload photos of men they’re dating to get “the tea” on them (red flags, catfishing, etc.). I always wondered if something like this existed. Sucks that it has to, sucks even more if their users are being targeted like this.
The reason that up until now an app like that hasn’t existed is because it is an absolutely awful idea if you spend more than 10 seconds thinking about it.
It’s ripe for abuse in fact I would be surprised if even half of the reports are legitimate. Isn’t absolutely god awful system and whoever thought this up is an absolute prat, who seriously needs to get outside and actually experience real life and real people.
The original incarnation on Facebook got sued for posting libel and shut down. There’s no judge of truth on these apps it’s all she said and no he said.
Talk about adding to the toxic nature of the world. Anyone thinking we should have a digital record of social reputation isn’t thinking it through.
It’s a reaction to the toxic nature of the world, what it adds is a drop in the bucket in exchange for avoiding abusers
But are they abusers? You sure they ain’t just getting revenge on an ex, making them undateable. How do you even validate this information?
If this was an app where men post photos of women without their permission, you would he losing your mind over how gross it is.
Women aren’t routinely abusing men with dating apps so yeah I would be weirded out lmao
Lmao
Jesus you definitely need to get out more.
I mean. A social database I feel is toxic in of itself. It’s makes forgiveness harder, it makes changing yourself harder. What’s the point in changing if people are gonna look you up in a database like this and perhaps forevermore treat you as if you are like that in the present day, forever. It assumes that humans are unchanging, that once a shitty person always a shitty person.
Strong disagree. Just creating another bully culture.
What’s the alternative to warning strangers about predators?
I hear that, I just don’t think this is the way to go about it. Digital reputation system that lives on some corporate dataset is just ripe for terrible problems. It’s terrible for everyone’s privacy when we normalize this shit.
What about people who don’t use this app, do they not deserve to be protected, do they deserve to suffer because they didn’t use this app?
Let’s be real, this app is about gossip, it’s not about protecting women and keeping them safe, it’s literally in the name it’s about “spilling the tea” aka gossip.
Contacting police?
As usual on Lemmy, the answer is just for women to shut up and listen to what the men want
Just goes to show how lost you are in your feminist supremacy bubble, that even leftist spaces like lemmy think this thing is creepy.
This already happened in my country, Secret was an app that got huge while I was finishing high school, an anonymous platform for people to confess private stuff, it rapidly became bully culture and libel central.
If someone doesn’t want to date you because of gossip they read online, then you dodged a bullet. The garbage took itself out.
Do you think X should be shut down because some users use it irresponsibly?
Reddit?
Lemmy?
Alright, but none of that was really relevant to this comment. Why are you soapboxing on it?
You sort of started it with your comment. I don’t want to be around people that feel the need to document everything on a website. Please inform those around you so they can decide to opt out.
It’s gossip and toxic. Have you not seen what these places are on Facebook?
It doesn’t have to.