Further most people don’t know they are in abusive relationships even if it is obvious to others around them so the casually dismissive argument “well abusive couples shouldn’t use it” is a trash argument.
My point is when people use this argument “Well abusive couples just shouldn’t be couples!” it is a way to dismiss the danger of never ending surveillance that makes an INCREDIBLY problematic leap of condemning people falling into abusive relationships to simply suffer, tough luck… and it demonstrates a callous, ineffective and frankly worrying understanding of how abusive relationships formed in general.
If your partner doesn’t abuse it is fine, but that’s also possible to change at any time.
Further most people don’t know they are in abusive relationships even if it is obvious to others around them so the casually dismissive argument “well abusive couples shouldn’t use it” is a trash argument.
Whether you know it or not does not change the message. Abusive couples shouldn’t not use this app, they shouldn’t be couples.
My point is when people use this argument “Well abusive couples just shouldn’t be couples!” it is a way to dismiss the danger of never ending surveillance that makes an INCREDIBLY problematic leap of condemning people falling into abusive relationships to simply suffer, tough luck… and it demonstrates a callous, ineffective and frankly worrying understanding of how abusive relationships formed in general.
It doesn’t dismiss anything. It’s just a statement of fact. Certainly in certain contexts it could be interpreted that way.