Lemmy seems active, but niche and difficult to navigate. Mastodon may be good, but it seems like another favorites-picking drama-enabling platform, or at least that’s how it is on certain instances. X has been pretty bad, but with some good moments, and Bluesky has been the absolute worst next to Truth Social. I’m almost tempted to use Facebook, but perhaps Discord or Reddit could be better, as I’ve had mild success with them before, but always found myself led astray by toxic groups or “friend finder” communities on Discord or bored by Reddit. I don’t think any large social media is going to be broadly good, as freedom means freedom to be a jerk. Curated sites tend to be a bit better, but curation styles rarely meet my standards (including being consistent). Lemmy and certain Matrix rooms might be the best answers, but I just wanted to make sure. IDK if I’m even worthy of a good community, as I can be toxic, but I digress. May as well start the conversation and not overthink it.
so lemmy and mbin and piefed seem to be all the same combo. I like them. kbin/mbin had this thing to incorporate mastadon but I kinda wish they all were setup where all accounts had a personal community that is private by default and people could open them and admin them so that I could subscribe to people if they wanted to use those like that.